Since intimate weddings are going to be IN for a while due to the pressing Covid-19 situation, there's been a number of opinions and myths spreading around about intimate weddings, which sadly are NOT true.
Let's bust these myths and prevent our fellow brides and grooms from further confusion about intimate weddings.
1. Intimate weddings are NOT dull, boring, or less special
Not in any way! Less people does not mean less merriment. There's more to weddings than the number of guests. Weddings are about the celebration of love and the start of marriage. That should be the focal point. Also, having a few close family and friends with extended laughter and bonding moments are always better than having hundreds of people with most you barely even know. Lastly, it's actually easier to entertain and create festivity with a small group rather than a large one. Large groups tend to have eat-and-run guests too.
2. Intimate weddings are NOT limited to simplicity
If you're one of those sophisticated couples that aren't satisfied with a muted and simplified wedding, who says you can't add drama? There's no rule stating intimate weddings should only be plain and simple. It's just a stereotype since couples often perceive they should tone done on the drama since it's going to be just a few people. It's your wedding, so feel free to splurge more and do it your way if you want to. If you're holding a celebration at home, hire a stylist, have a caterer or order their food trays, dress to the nines and have your photos taken by a pro. Or setting the pandemic aside, perhaps an overseas destination wedding for 10 pax? Now tell me if that's "just simple"?
3. Intimate weddings are NOT always cheap
By default, intimate weddings typically cost much less than your average wedding. However, in relation to #2 above, it can also become quite expensive depending on how the couple wants their wedding to be. Your cost can relatively be reduced in terms of food, venue size, # of favors, type of packages for some of the suppliers. But for others such as coordinators, the price would relatively be the same due to same nature of work. Also, the "type" and "quality" of products and services you select may affect the price. For instance, a course menu of crabs, steaks, and other pricey ingredient dishes for 30 pax may cause more than a regular Filipino buffet for 100 pax.
4. Intimate weddings are NOT POVO
If you would search google on what POVO is, it roughly means something done by or belonging to the poor sector. Oh come on! I don't understand how people can discriminate and belittle intimate weddings. They are just ignorant and lack the proper information. Destination weddings, known for being intimate, are definitely not for the poor. Also, with this pandemic going on, most who choose to get married during this time have relatively limited choices, not because they are trying to skimp and save. Lastly, treating your guests for the full celebration sounds so much better than attempting to invite 100 pax then telling them to bring their own booze.
5. Intimate weddings are NOT a show of exclusivity and favoritism
One big reason why most couples are hesitant to go intimate is because they are concerned on what the uninvited people would think. Especially at a time like this and with us anticipating what the new normal would be like, they should be able to understand why you are limiting guests to your closest loved ones. Weddings should not be a show or a test of friendship and relationships. Apart from safety reasons, it can be that we are attempting to save, or we just want to bond and be closer to a number of limited guests, or it's just our cup of tea, no matter the reason, they should be able to openly accept and be happy for you. Plus, if they really want to witness your union, you can avail of a live coverage service for them to access.
Always remember that we cannot please everybody, and that there will always be somebody who will not be entirely happy with our actions and choices. For a once-in-a-lifetime event such as your wedding, you will definitely not regret following your heart.
Hope this helps clear the air about intimate weddings and guide our confused and hesitant brides and grooms to confidently make a sound decision.
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