"Love, anung gusto mong theme?"
"Kahit ano love."
"Eh color motif?"
"Kahit ano love."
"Ok ba sa iyo tong invitation layout?"
"Ok na yan love."
Most often than not, it is the bride who actively participates in the planning process down to the very details, and the groom only chimes in from time to time, checking on the accumulated expenses and usually just present on the most important appointments and finalizing of plans. This may work for some, but there are brides who would wish their groom could be more active and contribute more inputs. Of course there are exceptions! I know a number of grooms who can even be more active than the bride, but these kind of grooms are pretty much rare.
So ladies, here's some tips (and tricks) on how to encourage your fiancé to participate more actively in your wedding planning. <Wink, wink.>
1. Get wild and exaggerate your plans, then show him the total cost.
Oh yeah, we girls know how to amp up the levels so high, their eyes will open so wide with astonishment! If you have a simple event styling in mind, try incorporating pricey elements, or base your design with top notch celebrity event stylists, and the cost would immediately multiply. What we're hoping here is that he would at least contradict and reason out with you, and better yet, research other alternatives for you. That would be productive too.
2. Ultra feminine theme
Tell him you want him to wear a pink floral printed suit to match your theme. Girly cakes, styling, invitations, favors, everything. The imbalance is so evident, we hope he's gonna say something about it and balance everything out with both of your personalities, just the way it should be!
3. Present Choices
On a lighter note, if you are uncomfortable tricking your fiancé, or you think he might not take it well, then present him with some choices FIRST, then see how he would respond. This means that it should book for us to do the first steps such as researching and coming up with our choices and preferences then ask for their inputs after. It's usually overwhelming for anyone to search for options with thousands to choose from, especially for guys, so narrowing it down would help make decision making easier, for both of you.
BTW, options can also be suggested by your trusty coordinator!
4. Yes or No
This would be the last resort. If he still seemed uninterested after presenting the choices to him, then select your own top preference, then ask him directly if he agrees with you. If he doesn't, follow with your next preferred choice. If he doesn't agree with any of the options, you might want to ask him if he could search for options instead, otherwise you will not get anywhere.
5. Talk
If the above tips and tricks didn't work, the oldest tip in the book should suffice, which is to talk. Planning a wedding is already like a test or a trial of what life would be like once you're married. If something like this makes it difficult for both of you to work together, you might want to communicate heart to heart with your fiancé and reconsider. The road to marriage and beyond is full of decision making, and most often should be made by both of you.
And come on! Since you love each other, both of you should be excited enough to plan the details of the most special day of your lives! These tips and tricks are only meant to guide you back on track if one of you lost your way. Always remember that it always takes both to cha-cha!
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